Perhaps a more appropriate question would be “Are Males Required At All?”, but assuming that we seem to be stuck with them (at least for the time being) I thought it would be useful to briefly look at whether men actually need to cum or not. The problem being that my hubby seems to want to cum all the time, and I don’t want him to cum at all.
Apparently there are some health benefits to men having some orgasms but a lot of this appears to be conjecture. The fact that the discharge of semen actually seems to help certain cancers is the most concerning. However, a male does not need to actually have an orgasm to empty his balls. We can also achieve this with regular milking. And if you have not already read the amazing article ‘Milking The Male’ I recommend it as a darn good read, and as a basic blueprint for any female led relationship.
So on balance, if ever a male tries to make you feel guilty for his lack of orgasms on health grounds, forget it. I would give mine a good whipping for even suggesting it.
I want my boy alert to my needs, I want him needy, motivated, and on edge. Unfortunately, if you allow him an orgasm, your likely to see a significant drop off in all of these traits. I have noticed that the attitude of even the most submissive male will alter right after spurting his load. He becomes lazy, sleepy, cocky, arrogant and even signs of aggressiveness. All the things I despise in men. Why is this? Well because his pre-programmed maleness makes him think that his work is done. He has performed his basic function (ejaculating), and he no longer has to think about anything else but himself. This has been true in every male I have intimately known. This can last for anything between a couple of hours through to the next day. Basically his typical male ways will last until he is horny once again.
So this in a nutshell is my argument against men having a right to orgasm. But in the interest of fairness I did ask my hubby for his thoughts on the matter. His response was rather muffled given that I was sitting on his face at the time. But I think he said something along the lines of that I should let him orgasm because it helped him concentrate at work and also it helps him get a good nights sleep. But he also said that immediately after an orgasm he could also see a change in himself that he did not like, similar to what I outlined above. He knows that his focus should be on me. In his world I should always come first (and last) 🙂